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Baby boomer goals: home ownership, 2.5 kids, dream vacations to florida/hawaii
Millenial goals: having any money left after bills, an apartment without roommates, dying quickly and painlessly in the initial nuclear exchange to avoid witnessing the collapse of humanity
(via wethebambam)
“You’ll always come across people whose hearts aren’t as big as yours, and you can’t really avoid it. So instead, just be prepared for whatever comes your way, deal with it, and when it’s over, forgive the person and forget all about it because in the future, these people won’t matter anymore, and the reason why you encounter these kind of people every once in a while is because life wants to help you become a stronger and a more enduring person. So do not worry, time will take care of you. Do not have grudges against these kind of people and always forgive them because in the end, it’s not between you and them, it’s between you and God. Be the bigger person, and God will be so proud of you.”— @exquihsite (Shania Asuka Seto)
“I don’t need to get revenge on anybody. What happened, happened. It’s over. It’s time for me to get back to my life and continue to improve as a person.”— Affirmation of the day.
Try not to focus on “letting go,” but rather, just let it be. Accept the situation as it is. The breakup, the pain — all of it. This is your reality right now. Don’t resist it. Feel all that you need to feel, learn all its lessons. Let this experience teach you about people, love, relationships, life, and especially about yourself. Breakups are an incredible opportunity for self-awareness and growth in general.
The breakup is causing you pain, but don’t prolong this pain by attaching yourself to the role of “heartbroken and stuck.” See yourself as healing, as simply experiencing life. Go with the flow; let the pain flow through you and carry you through the necessary stages of grief. The more you fight it, the longer it takes. Breakups don’t need to make us bitter. Breakups can make us better. Don’t struggle to let it go, just let it be and the pain will let go of you.
Moving On 15.03.2018
(Source: iamstrongallonmyown)
“It’s just so overwhelmingly obvious to me, that the scapegoats of the narcissist are good solid people, who have taken a horrific beating, emotionally, physically, sexually.. because they had good traits. Because they were happy. You were targeted because you possessed these good traits the narcissist can never hold, and that is why you had to be crushed.”— Why You Were Targeted, Narcissism Survivor
These characteristics apply to males and females
1. Self-centered. His/Her needs are paramount.
2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.
3. Unreliable, undependable.
4. Does not care about the consequences of their actions.
5. Projects faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never their fault.
6. Little if any conscience.
7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.
8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.
9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.
10. People are to be manipulated for their needs.
11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to their gain at other’s expense. If trapped, keeps talking, changes the subject or gets angry.
12. Pathological lying.
13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.
14. No real values. Mostly situational.
15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.
16. Angry, mercurial, moods.
17. Uses sex to control
18. Does not share ideas, feelings, emotions.
19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.
20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.
21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, activities.
22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason.
23. Moody – switches from nice guy to anger without much provocation.
24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.
25. Seldom expresses appreciation.
26. Grandiose. Convinced he/she knows more than others and is correct in all he/she does.
27. Lacks ability to see how he/she comes across to others. Defensive when confronted with his behavior. Never his/her fault.
28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show or frustration rather than sorrow.
29. He/She breaks woman’s or men’s spirits to keep them dependent.
30. Needs threats, intimidations to keep others close to him.
31. Sabotages partner. Wants him/her to be happy only through him/her and to have few or no outside interests and acquaintances.
32. Highly contradictory.
33. Convincing. Must convince people to side with him/her.
34. Hides his/her real self. Always “on”
35. Kind only if he/she gets from you what they want.
36. He/She has to be right. He/She has to win. He/She has to look good.
37. He/She announces, not discusses. He/She tells, not asks.
38. Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.
39. Controls money of others but spends freely on himself.
40. Unilateral condition of, “I’m OK and justified so I don’t need to hear your position or ideas”
41. Always feels misunderstood.
42. You feel miserable with this person. This person drains you.
43. Does not listen because they do not care.
44. Their feelings are discussed, not the partners.
45. Is not interested in problem-solving.
46. Very good at reading people, so they can manipulate them. Sometimes called gaslighting.
I came to say goodbye today,
I stood among the weeping trees,
the silent people were solemn and grey;
just whispered words on the chilly breeze.
I waited till they all were gone,
and then I sat down by your side,
for me you were the only one,
but your love for me had cooled and died.
Words are hard for me to find;
words are useless and cannot say,
the turmoil that is in my mind,
the cruel, cruel jokes that life doth play.
When I leave here, you will be alone;
no one here to comfort thee,
you will rest so silent, in this cold, cold home;
beneath a weeping willow tree.
The light is fading, t’is time to part,
but its very hard to say goodbye,
you will be with me, deep in my heart,
inside of me, you will never die.
Ambrose Harte
Scattered Thoughts
“Ever has it been that love knows not it’s depth until the hour of separation”— Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
“When you get ahold of something you want to keep forever, you can never get a good night’s sleep once you realize how easily it can be taken away from you.”— Connotativewords | jl | Insomnia
Stumbled on this… So painfully accurate. My depression was rooted to my childhood, or lack thereof… Now, it’s rooted to my failures as a lover and friend as well. I’m a horrible person and I am a walking monstrosity and an indescribable atrocity.
“I keep getting drunk So that I can forget How your mouth felt on mine The warmth of your hand And the beating of your heart I keep making bad decisions Hoping one will take your place To erase your scent To hear a new voice And experience a new sensation But every morning when I wake I am filled with pain That you’re not here And the only thing on my mind Is regret -G.S.”—
“If ever you search for me and I’m nowhere to be found, just remember that there was a time when you had all the power to keep me as long as you could.”— Connotativewords | jl | Do-over
